It really does take extraordinary effort to expect the worst, search for the negative, blame, worry, and generally focus on what's wrong with everything. I believe that people turn to frowning when reality doesn't align over time with their expectations. That's life though! There are no guarantees except that you were born and you will die. Whether you frown or smile in the interim is up to you! The people that choose to frown are generally angry and those who choose to smile are generally happy. Frowning people feel that life is not working out the way they thought it would and feel powerless to make the changes needed, or won't search for the changes that need to be made. Smiling people seem to have less health problems, accept their lives and are more in control.

There are five factors to be aware of that determine whether you're frowning or smiling.

1. Watch Your Pace: We all have a pace at which we work and each person is different! Often people try to exceed their own pace which is O.K. for a short time. But when we fail to slow down and re-establish our pace, trouble sets in. Are you pacing yourself effectively? What is the pace at which you are most effective? Each person must answer this question for themselves. If your natural pace is not in concert with your regular job requirements then you will be wearing a frown on your face. If they are, then you should be smiling!
   
2. Being a "Do-it-all": We all know that "Know-it-all's" are dangerous but "Do-it-all's" can be lethal as well! They often take on the whole world single handedly and their anthem is "Me Against the World". Believe me, if a "Do-it-all" is the only smiling person in a meeting room then you had better search for an alternative situation because they will burn out! Effective leaders evenly distribute energy and know that many smiling people are more effective than one.
   
3. Accepting Everyone's Problems: Frowning people often accept problems that are out of their control. For example; a person "needs" a certain price for milk so you decide to make up the difference; you make another person's emotional or financial problems yours; these are serious problems and you should NOT make them yours! Remember that and smile!
   
4. Majoring in Minor Things: Frowning people get worked up by little things because they get a false feeling of superiority. It takes real skill and a smile to allocate the right amount of energy and time to complete a challenging situation. Here's a good rule to follow; if something deals with the health of yourself, your family or friends and quality of life between you and them, then it's big stuff! Everything else is a minor! Smile!
   
5. Unrealistic Expectations: Since we were young we were told that "You can be anything you want to be." Well that statement becomes self deception if you're 40 years old and you are now setting out to be a professional athlete! (Except Golf) The same is true for people who believe that their habits don't affect their outcome. If you have a habit of being irresponsible I can assure you that you will NOT end up in a position of responsibility. The difference between a person who frowns all the time and a person who smiles is that once you're in either of these patterns it is very difficult to change.

People that smile work for measurable progress in reasonable time. People that frown try to receive, emulate, or do something that they have no foundation for.

If you really want to change from a frowning person to a smiling one, then you'll need to know three things about yourself:

    * Your patterns
    * Your positives
    * Your passion

Those three areas make you an original. Remember: there has not been another person like you before nor will there ever be again. So I challenge you to start smiling! Life is an awesome gift!

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